Why is manpain so annoying

http://victory-candescence.tumblr.com/post/85654030270/why-is-manpain-so-annoying

the-linaerys:

I’ve been seeing some good posts going around about CA:TWS and how Captain America is a man in legitimate emotional pain, not a man with manpain. I think there are several things that separate the two:

1. With legitimate emotional pain (legitpain) the things that cause the pain come organically from within the world of the story. Batman’s parents were killed, but they’re rarely real parts of any narrative. They only exist to give him pain. See also a million dead wives/girlfriends/families. When an event is grafted onto a narrative specifically to give the character pain, but otherwise has no impact on the world of the story, you might get manpain.

( The narrative assumes the character is damaged forever by it... )

Just because your pain is understandable,

doesn’t mean your behavior is acceptable.

Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience (via paintdeath)

beautiful quote

http://llanval.tumblr.com/post/85619855125/aseaofquotes-patrick-rothfuss-the-name-of-the

aseaofquotes:

Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind

Everyone wants to be Batman,

but everyone should be Captain America.

Captain America Doesn’t Need To Be A Jerk To Be Interesting  (via tipsyggnostalgic)

Oh, Daenerys, I love you, but not your actress.

leupagus:

It’s interesting, in a clinical sort of way, how many people sympathize with Jorah, considering his feelings for Daenerys are so incredibly gross.

I mean, here’s the thing - he envies Daario and would rather be in Daario’s shoes than his own, because Daario gets to have sex with Daenerys. But Daenerys doesn’t respect Daario, or value him much; she lusts after him, sure, but nothing more than that. There’s not an equality there, and certainly not a friendship. She’s listened to his advice when it’s suited her, but if he’d died in that fight against the champion, she’d have shrugged and moved on.

Whereas Jorah is literally the most important person in Daenerys’s life; she loves him, in fact. He’s her advisor and confidante and the rock she stood on while she became what she is now. If Jorah was killed, Daenerys would raze cities in vengeance. Not to get into spoiler territory, but their relationship becomes even more complicated and heartbreaking precisely because she loves him so much.

And all her love and admiration and respect are constantly dismissed, both by Jorah and by a lot of the fans, as being friendzoned, merely because that love isn’t sexual. People pity Jorah’s poor widdle feelings just because he doesn’t value what he has with Daenerys over what he thinks he deserves to have.

Why isn’t Daenerys the tragic figure here? I feel a lot worse for her than I do for him - not only is her best friend a spy and a traitor, but she has to deal with his totally inappropriate and unasked-for affections when what she really needs is her friend. The most powerful woman in the world is still expected to be grateful that some dude old enough to be her father wants to fuck her. But by all means, pity the dude. It’s not like women have any value besides getting dudes’ dicks wet.

Well, being a minority and a woman in America sucks. But we all knew that.

twssonline:

jhameia:

sarahjhuynh:

writeswrongs:

From NPR’s transcript of a Morning Edition story: Group of researchers ran this interesting field experiment. They emailed more than 6,500 professors at the top 250 schools pretending to be the students. And they wrote letters saying, I really admire your work. Would you have some time to meet? The letters to the faculty were all identical, but the names of the students were all different. […] Brad Anderson. Meredith Roberts. Lamar Washington. LaToya Brown. Juanita Martinez. Deepak Patel, Sonali Desai, Chang Wong, Mei Chen. […] All they were measuring was how often professors wrote back agreeing to meet with with the students. And what they found was there were very large disparities. Women and minorities [were] systematically less likely to get responses from the professors and also less likely to get positive responses from the professors. Now remember, these are top faculty at the top schools in the United States and the letters were all impeccably written.

Two more kickers: “There’s absolutely no benefit seen when women reach out to female faculty, nor do we see benefits from black students reaching out to black faculty or Hispanic students reaching out to Hispanic faculty,” and, “In business academia, we see a 25 percentage point gap in the response rate to Caucasian males vs. women and minorities.” Word, this sounds great, we’re doing great. [NPR]

But white male privilege doesn’t exist?

And then there’s this:

Milkman found there were very large disparities between academic departments and between schools. Faculty at private schools were significantly more likely to discriminate against women and minorities than faculty at public schools. And faculty in fields that were very lucrative were also more likely to discriminate. So there was very little discrimination in the humanities. There was more discrimination among faculty at the natural sciences. And there was a lot of discrimination among the faculty at business schools.

Uh-huh tell me again how science and money are ideologically neutral.

Wowza.